Love or Money - Which would you choose? (Poll)

I agree. Real love is unconditional, and lasts forever. It is the most wonderful thing I have ever experienced in my life, and I'd live in a cardboard box on the corner before I'd ever give up those I love, and who love me.

easy....its money

by looking at divorce rates.....its obvious love doesnt last. In my opinion women should go for money.......too many end up single with kids and strugglling to make it because they fell in love with a complete loser.

if you raise your standards......want a man with money.....then men will raise to get you.

so in a perfect world...I would say love...but in the reality of our world....it has to be money.

you have to care about yourself....too many people dont and we are reaping the destructive rewards of that.

good article though...voted up.

they cant control as there are laws against slavery.....I know women who are with men with money..and women who are with men without money....and its been my witnessed opinion that usually the ones with the poor man are more controlled than the ones with the men with money.

I really dont think you understand what I am saying.

And what fanatsy world do you live in marshall, I KNEW you couldn't let that one drop - it directly attacks your "ideology".
So, let's hear your examples.

Hecate's Daughter:

It is the most wonderful thing I have ever experienced in my life, and I'd live in a cardboard box on the corner before I'd ever give up those I love, and who love me.

Beautiful.

dont know how it attacks my ideology.....its a personal choice..and I believe people have the choice to marry who they want for what they want.

I dont believe in forcing morality on others....LIKE SOME.

I feel sorry for you Marshall James. You sound like you've never had love.

I am SO lucky. I have the kind of love they write about in poems and books. We are SOOOOO happy. Money is nice, but it is nothing next to love!

kaviaq

oh I have had love...and am in love right now...but if I was a betting man...I would never bet on love to last on anyone....EVER.

99% of all relationships end between the ages of 14 and 70.....

love doesnt last.

I've seen too many happy old couples to believe that. My grandparents (both pairs) loved each other and stayed together until one of them died (my mother's parents were married for over 60 years). And my husbands grandparents were together and in love into their 90's (on his father's side) and STILL together and in love on his mother's side at 92 and 96. Love CAN last forever. I know most marriages end in divorce....but real love is out there!!

like I said. 99% of ALL relationships between the ages of 14 to 70 end.

If you were to offer and gambling man 99% odds of winning........do you think he would even hesitate to take that bet???

you can deny it all you want...it just doesnt make sense statistically.

and life is the leading cause of death the world over? not sure what the point is.

like I said. 99% of ALL relationships between the ages of 14 to 70 end.

And 67% of all statistics are made up. /sarc

Where are you getting this number?? You really shouldn't use statistics unless you can back them up with an actual study. Otherwise you are just stating an opinion with random numbers attached.

kaviaq

do you really think that the very first person you date...you will be with at 70? really???? or will you date more than one person in your entire life????

many people experience "love" and it doesnt last.

My...quite the cynic. Very sad. But my point was you keep quoting "99% as if it is a statistic and not an opinion. You could have said "The vast majority of" and been fine....although still kind of depressing.

Besides, I still love lots of my old boyfriends. We just aren't a couple anymore. They are happy, I'm happy and we all love each other as friends instead of as spouses. Perhaps most relationships don't last, but they are all still valuable and love is never wasted.

I admit that the love I share with my husband is a rare and precious thing. I am very lucky to get to live "happily ever after". So few of us do. But to value money over love??.......well I just pity such an empty existence.

I think you dont quite get me.

We only live once in this world....in the past people got together out of necessity....if you got with a loser...who just wanted to sit on his ass......you died.

but now we subsidize the losers......makes them a bit more attractive as there really is not consequence of being with them...add in birth control....and blamo.....

people wonder why there are so many women having children without their father around????? he if that is your choice..fine...but most women are not choosing that.

and they do not choose to be left with kids and getting about 50 bucks a month in child support because the guy is a dud.

maybe if they had a bit higher standards they wouldnt be in that situation.

why not increase your self worth?? why not demand a bit more for a partner?

I dont think raising standards for mates is a bad thing...obviously people disagree with me.

ie....our current situation.

why not demand a bit more for a partner?

I dont think raising standards for mates is a bad thing...obviously people disagree with me.

My standards are very high. They just don't include money. I have a good education and good income. I make more than my husband....I also spend more. We are happy. What I want and expect from him has nothing to do with money. As they say "you can't buy love". I have enough money. And now I have enough love. If I had to give one of them up I'd rather live in a cardboard box WITH my sweetie, then in a mansion without him.

kaviaq

sounds like your husband had high standards...good for him.

you are not understanding that while money may not mean much to you.....you have shown that you wanted to better yourself...you tried in life...got an education....got a good job.

that is what I am talking about....the importance of money might not be high on your list...because you have it....you and your husband would be what I would consider what is right.

lets go back to before you met him though......and lets say you were out with your friends having a few drinks bar hopping......

and your husband was there.....but instead of the great guy that he is...he was a homeless person with no job....with a cup in hand and a cardboard sign.

would you have given him the time and gave him your number?????

there are women who do....and men for that matter...they see a woman willing to say yes...and the go for it....regardless of who she is or what she does.

we have lost track of what made humanity great.

self respect....love has nothing to do with it. money is just an indicator that you are more likely to have that.

MarshallJ

many people experience "love" and it doesnt last.

Then it wasn't love. I've never stopped loving the people I love. And I am a polyandrous Wiccan; one of my husbands has been with me 21 years; the other joined us almost 14 years ago. My love for them only grows stronger each day! I hope one day you find that kind of love with another person. I can't describe it, but I would give up everything I own to keep it, including my life.
HD