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What does being committed to your marriage really mean? UCLA psychologists answer this question in a new study based on their analysis of 172 married couples over the first 11 years of marriage.
"When people say, 'I'm committed to my relationship,' they can mean two things," said study co-author Benjamin Karney, a professor of psychology and co-director of the Relationship Institute at UCLA. "One thing they can mean is, 'I really like this relationship and want it to continue.' However, commitment is more than just that."
Here is what real commitment to your marriage means
Seeded on Thu Feb 2, 2012 12:34 PM EST
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The couples that were willing to make sacrifices within their relationships were more effective in solving their problems, the psychologists found. "It's a robust finding," Bradbury said. "The second kind of commitment predicted lower divorce rates and slower rates of deterioration in the relationship."
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#1 - Thu Feb 2, 2012 12:34 PM ESTA very good read!
Looking back, my first marriage was one of those stubborn, no compromise type of relationships. My second marriage, is completely the opposite. We both compromise and have found the value in recognizing that a simple "I'm sorry" works, with both of us changing our behavior to making things work. We have understood that neither of us are perfect, and thus, we are more forgiving and accepting of each other.
Pride and stubborness have no place in marriage. That is where the lack of compromise sinks in.
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#2 - Thu Feb 2, 2012 1:13 PM ESTWe have understood that neither of us are perfect, and thus, we are more forgiving and accepting of each other.
Pride and stubborness have no place in marriage. That is where the lack of compromise sinks in.
Amen to that!
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the way that i have and will continue to look at it is that if you want your marriage or any relationship for that matter to last, you cannot look at it as a 50/50 proposition. you must attempt to give it 100% all the time and have to consider your partners needs before your own.
if you cannot find happiness under this approach to your relationship, maybe it is because you have looked for the wrong things to base a relationship upon and did not really get you know your partner well enough to make a decision that should and can last a lifetime.
think about it, if your partner is not happy, are you? if you truly love someone and want that relationship to last, you are going to look for them to be happy even before yourself.
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#3 - Thu Feb 2, 2012 1:39 PM ESTI'll have to ask my bride of 46, that's 1946, about this and I'll get back to y'all after she tells me what I can say!! :~))
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#4 - Thu Feb 2, 2012 3:38 PM ESTThank you both very much! I always have said that when I first started taking notice of this girl each time I saw her the reaction was the same--my heart stopped! While now, after all of these years, it doesn't quite stop anymore, it sure does slow down a bit. One basis for a long and successful relationship is simply, compromise! Another is being able to say I'm sorry. Works for us. :>))
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