Toxic relationships are linked to cancer, depression and heart disease

When anyone can put another in a full blown asthma attack to the extent they are turning blue you know that person is not a good one for you.

Years later I ran into a new administrator at a school where I worked. It was a new arts magnet middle school and I was the office manager. The school had a part time assistant principal the year before and since he was absent most of the time the parents deferred to me. Weeks into the year as I was introducing this assistant principal to the parents she made an awful remark about me and how she resented that the community deferred to me said she'd put a stop to this soon enough. She began behaving quite strangely and inappropriately toward me. I asked her if she' like me to request a transfer so she could choose another office manager and she nixed the idea. Instead she attempted and failed to turn the community against me. I'd known most of these families for 8 years so that wasn't an easy task. One day she took me into a store room and got in my face and began ranting away at me. She'd decided to put me in my place and although she kept emphasizing my abilities she did this in the nastiest manner twisting her words so it sound like a bad thing. I listened to her and all of a sudden I couldn't breath and began wheezing sounding like a honking seal. I was so embarrassed but realized she was attacking me in such a horrific manner that it was affecting my ability to function. Luckily I got away from her and went to another school and she barely made it through the year before she left the district. People that have such evil and jealous makeups can be very toxic. The funny thing is I happen to run into her in a department store months later and she ran up to me and announced, "You realize I had to do what I did to get the community on my side". I just looked at her and said, "I have nothing to say to you" and walked away.

I do believe that given a "title" is not always a good play with some people, Ms CYPRAH as the manner in which they use this is only to hurt others. This particular woman was very derogatory toward the teaching staff also and would say inappropriate things about them in front of parents and other staff members. She had to be mega insecure to do this in my opinion.

Dear US Citizen, I wish I could provide the sympathy you seek. Yes, I am very aware that some men are mistreated by women. But, we are talking statistics.

Women the world over are treated as property. They are raped and abused, overworked and underpaid. I am too old, I have seen too much to give equal weight to the plight of men.

SA: I understand that females in far too many places are treated as less than equal, less than human, and kept from being who they are and might be.

I was and remain impressed with my worthy Aunt's and others who achieved much, but not what they could have because of what US society did to them in terms of keeping them from doing what they could have done. They helped raise me to be a supporter of females, not by being feminist, but by literally living like they did and being who they were.

Sympathy is nice but is too often sought for the wrong reasons. This keeps us all from being able to emphasize with those who really need it, as we can't easily tell who is real, and who is being manipulative. What I offer is for the most part intended to try to keep the position more equal, and not promote attacks by one gender on another as one individual does not define an entire gender.

I don't blame anyone for being careful. Outside the USA in particular, conditions I'm convinced can be quite atrocious. Inside the USA, it's as if gender class warfare is in full swing, and as I've said, been-there-and-done that in both genders and the "out gender" often gets the shaft no matter which gender is in control.

The world needs to come more to the side of gender equality, and it's important for everyone's cause that US gender equality be somehow kept from "over-correcting" and swinging to total female domination, as that's not good either. If we can get real equality working, I think the US will work better, and the world will have a stable model to strive towards.

Thank you Susan Anthony for your post. I appreciate what you've offered. I'm also sorry for any abuse you have wrongly suffered at the hands of mere males, or anyone.