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How is your feeling of self worth?
Building your self-worth actually starts with a very difficult thing to do: ACCEPTING yourself, warts and all.
We all accept that we have strengths and weaknesses, but most people, in their desire for perfection, focus mainly on the weaknesses while diminishing or ignoring their strengths in a lop-sided manner. In doing that, they devalue themselves in a way that bears little relation to the actual reality, while robbing their lives of the essential balance of perception it needs for healthy growth and development.
Of course, as others treat us the way we treat ourselves, and define us by the messages we give with our behaviour, the low self esteem is continually reinforced by our interactions in a never ending circle, which makes us feel even worse as time goes by and hampers our personal progress.
Discovering our purpose, as many experts might advise, is a good move, but it is not possible until after we accept ourselves as fallible human beings with great potential, just as we are! Otherwise, our belief system, especially regarding what we are capable of, will always remain distorted, and negative. Beliefs, of course, control perception. Perception controls desires. Desires control decisions and choice and, above all, decisions control actions.
Thus without changing that basic belief about ourselves and our potential we have no hope of getting to our purpose, because we will never believe we are worthy of it, or even capable of it, which will blur our perception of what we should do with our lives.
©Elaine Sihera (Ms CYPRAH) 2012
Emotional Health and People Management Consultant
"Happiness is a state of being. We are the ones who decide whether we wish to be happy or not, by the script we use inside our heads."
