
The trouble with racism is that it can be so subtle, unless you are on the receiving end, it is very difficult to appreciate. I was in a Boots chemist in my local town in England one Saturday (something I'll never forget) and someone who looked like the manager was just walking around the shop aimlessly. Suddenly, a white mother and what seemed like her mixed race son walked in. He was smiling, animated, happily chatting with her, obviously going about their business without any problems.
But the sudden change in the manager was stark. He took up a vantage position near the exit where he could see them clearly and he never stopped staring at this young man until he left the shop. I was riveted by the scene in front of me. Anyone else could have stolen the whole shop and he wouldn't care. The only YOUNG BLACK guy was there and, in his eyes, that must have spelt trouble. I thought of my own son and what he had been, and would be, subjected to in his life, merely because of his colour and, for the first time, I felt really vulnerable and frightened for him.
I have always thought that the perfect shop robbery would be done by having one white and one black person carrying it out. They would be so busy tracking the black guy, they would completely miss his partner spiriting away the goods!! I have seen nothing yet in the treatment of black people to change that opinion. In any community you will find all kinds of interest groups, loyalties and affinities, but they are not quite the same as racial groupings simply because we can always change our clubs and associations, but we cannot change our colour or race. We are stuck with it for life, so it cannot be ignored in any argument.
I have been presenting diversity seminars for managers for years and I do the same straw poll of my delegates every time. I ask them what matters to them most in their life. What they believe have shaped them into who they are. While everyone chooses 'family' in the top three items, in almost every case involving women and minorities, the women will put 'gender' at the top and minorities will put 'race' as their top influences.
That is how they believe they are perceived in a multicultural society which has affected their view of themself. A white male might not see race and gender as any issue, but he would be perceiving his life from a position of power within society, the undisputed owner of the historical, social, political, economical, media and professional authority. Until one relinqushes such power to be on the receiving end of prejudiced perceptions, one will never be able to understand this privileged difference.
It's time we developed the confidence to realise that we can have solidarity, brotherly support and the respect we seek without excluding others or treating them in the very ways we ourselves renounce and reject. That only by according love, value and respect to others can we hope to be loved, valued and respected in turn which, hopefully, should reduce racism.
The narrator has been invisible since he went underground because he was so disgusted with the betrayal he'd experienced. Now he has decided to come out of his hibernation and join the world again not as an invisible man who conforms to the expectations of white society, but as an individual who, in his most basic sense, is a human and therefore the voice of all humanity.
From Ralph Ellison's own description of the Epilogue of "Invisible Man," among the finest works of art ever written about prejudice and invisibility when a minority in a world dominated by another race.
Ms. CYPRAH
It is almost impossible for me to truly understand how women and minorities feel as a white male in America, and I admit at times I want to dismiss some of their feelings as unfounded although I am probably frequently wrong.
I remember going to college in 1968 and having a black classmate who became a very dear friend. I had grown up in a town of some 5000 people and as I recall there was only one black family in the town. I had almost no understanding of what it meant to be black in America and my naivete showed through clearly. I remember my friend laughing at me when I boldly made the claim that racism was now becoming a thing of the past in America. He gently but with passion told me about what it had been like for him growing up black in the South. Although I didn't buy into everything he said at the time, this began a change in me that is still taking place. He probably has no recollection of this time but it was significant to me. Change of course is taking place, my friend is an accomplished attorney working in a significant position for a white southern US senator. This is something that just wouldn't have been the case in 1968. I praise God for this needed change in our society and our world.
This is an excellent piece. I just clipped it to Newsviner's Picks.
I'm reminded of a summer two years ago when I attended a class in Baltimore (a majority black population) and a university that was traditionally black-only. I was the only white guy in my chemistry class and in just about every room I was in, be in cafeteria, bookstore, etc, I was almost always the only white guy.
It gave me as close a glimpse as I can probably get of feeling what it's like to be a minority, what with people stopping conversations as I approached or people all looking at me all suspicious. It was a fascinating experience.
You know the part that freaked me out the most? That the black students were practically competing over who could be my study partner. And I'm thinking, "Ok, I'm in this college because I almost flunked out of this subject but they think I'm smart. Why would they think that? Surely not because of my race. Surely they don't think I'm gonna be smarter because I'm white." After a week or two, when I didn't do well in the class, they lost all interest in working with me.
Scott... you just scared them off with all of that charm of yours... lol.
That must have been it.
Can I confess my most embarrassing moment of that class?
Sure, I have shared many an embarrassing moment here on the Vine...
Don't leave us hangin', Scoop...
Logan.. he is making fun of me, one of my last articles read...
"No I did get pregnant" when it should have read "No I did NOT get pregnant" hence examining why editing is so critical ;O)
Not only have I shared embarrassing stories I even wrote a story about life as an unlucky klutz. And listed it under recommendations on my bio page.
But this one I've never shared.... so we're in class and I'm thinking about how I once again got lost on the way to class. I was so off at this school that I even had my car towed one day.
Anyway so I'm in class and out of my element and one student is offering to sell prescriptions off a prescription pad that he got god knows where when I hear the teacher mention "today we're all going to go to our hood."
He says "hood" and I think 'hood as in ghetto for neighborhood. And I'm thinking, uh, oh, I'm honkey guy living out of a hotel - I don't have any hood. I'm hood-less. What to do?
Fortunately before I say anything the teacher goes on to explain that there are contraptions in the back of class called hoods where you do something or other with chemicals and the hood helps control the temperature or.. heck, I forget the details - I just know that for a second there I felt like the most racist clueless white boy ever.
thanks for saying that.
A white male might not see race and gender as any issue, but he would be perceiving his life from a position of power within society, the undisputed owner of the historical, social, political, economical, media and professional authority. Until one relinqushes such power to be on the receiving end of prejudiced perceptions, one will never be able to understand this privileged difference.
This is a good piece, and thank you for it, but once more I have to add the caveat that "White" is a race (for the sake of this argument, anyway) and "male" is a gender, and I'm pretty sure most White males know they're, well, White males. Even ones in position of power are no doubt acutely aware that some people likely think they're there not because of talent, but because of the color of their skin. Perhaps some don't mind that. Perhaps some even revel in it. I don't know - there's all sorts of people in this world, both good and bad.
But I must also again point out that, while I see where you're coming from, and both the US and the UK have societal structures which historically have "White males" at the top - that experience of being in the majority, or powerful, or authoritative, doesn't necessarily hold true for all "White males", even in those countries (well, I won't speak for the UK). But where I'm from, I could have walked a hundred miles in any direction and not seen another "White" person - or, rather, the chances of doing so would have been rather slim, compared to that of seeing one of some other (in that area, dominant) "race".
I also think that as human beings we are capable of empathy. So if you want to say that, generically, "White males" are less likely to be able to truly understand what it means to be a minority, I'd probably say you're right (in the US and UK, at least), most of the time. But some do, because they, though White, are minorities themselves. And the rest can at least empathize, can try to understand, and can therefore try to better both themselves, and society.
In any case, I don't think the notion that one must be in a position of power in order to project "prejudiced perceptions" is necessarily valid, as I categorically reject the notion that minorities, themselves, can't likewise be prejudiced, or that those in "majorities" can't be prejudiced against.
Of course, it doesn't, but because they are disproportionately represented at those levels
Yes, it depends on the "levels" you're talking about - but certainly national policy is dictated by-and-large by white males, this is true, and disheartening (not because they are white males, necessarily, but because one would hope for a more representative government).
As far as White males are concerned, it is representative.
Well I meant proportionally representative....
Excellent work. Thank you.
we can always change our clubs and associations, but we cannot change our colour or race. We are stuck with it for life, so it cannot be ignored in any argument.
We had a bi-racial foster child from an incredibly impoverished and high-risk home. Defining herself will never be easy nor has it been. America is no better than the UK, as pointed out above.
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